This isn’t just about me, it’s about all of us — “Good riddance” You’re better off. He’s an asshole” “I’m so glad you got out” When you finally summon the courage to leave an abusive marriage, these are the kinds of things some people tell you. Talk about too little, too late. Where were you when I was being tackled, slapped…

I can’t believe I have to ask for it — It’s my birthday today. I’m now 58 years old. Yay me! I don’t feel old, but some days I sure do feel tired. Now, more than ever. It’s not a physical thing. It’s mental and emotional. Like, how are we still dealing with this bullshit in this day and age. …

Believe what they say — When Senator John Cornyn tweeted a reply to Barack Obama’s statement on the Supreme Court’s Roe v. Wade overturn, he employed lazy, non-contextual thinking to make his remark. He meant to say that Supreme Court precedents have been overturned before, and he’s happy that it’s happened now. It came across…

You better start believing what they say — Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof Were you shocked when the draft leaked from the Supreme Court? You shouldn’t have been. The overturn of Roe v. Wade has been a goal of conservatives for decades. Do you feel sick today…

We should be the most sought-after job candidates — I’m going to cut right to the chase. Which is reason number one why you want to hire women in their 50s. We don’t have time to waste and we don’t have time for bullshit. Not ours, not yours. We’re still middle-aged. Discard the old school notion that your 50s…

And not just for the bathroom — There’s a recession coming. Probably. There still may be time for a Hail Mary pass, but don’t count on it. Hope for it, but never count on it. In times like these, stable full-time employment looks a lot more attractive to people like me who really don’t particularly like working…

Happy Anniversary to Loving vs. Virginia — In 1963 a dark-skinned half Japanese and half Filipino man married a white Irish-American woman. She looked remarkably like Shirley Jones, his favorite actress. The fact that he was Catholic made the marriage just palatable enough to her side of the family. It’s not like they really had a choice…

To shave or not to shave isn’t really the question — Let’s talk about armpits. Specifically, let’s talk about why women shave their armpit hair into (temporary) oblivion. And by “talking”, I actually mean “let’s think about this”. 150 years ago, women wore high-necked, long-sleeved, corseted dresses with masses of petticoats, and never dared to expose an ankle, lest they ruin…